Dear Future Self… The Concept
Have you ever had a moment where “if you knew then, what you know now”? I have moments like this all the time when I find myself reflecting. I am all about getting to know myself and figuring out ways to better myself, and others around me. So…I am issuing a challenge. What is something that you want to tell your future self? What should your future self-know about you? It all starts with writing, “Dear Future Self…”
I remember in high school, we wrote letters to ourselves as a part of our senior memory books. We wrote ourselves two letters. The first was for one year after graduation, and the second was for five years after graduation. No matter where you’ve come from, what you’ve endured, or where you’re going, this may apply to you. Take this, and make it your own.
Dear Future Me…
These past few years may have been difficult for you. Letting go of things and people who are not adding positivity and light into your life isn’t always easy. Your life experiences may have been a challenge, but it, also, is proving to bring the best experiences of your life.
You are wrapping up this chapter of life. You will be taking on new responsibilities. You’ll be forced to stand on your own two feet, make your own decisions, and navigate through life living for you.
I know that you have dreams, goals, and aspirations. However, always remember to keep God first and to remain humble. Humility will get you further in life. You do not have to seek validation from people and their reactions to you, just focus on being the best you that you can be. You cannot let everyone’s opinion drown out your own thoughts and ideas of how to live your life. Consider them, yes… make them the end all be all, absolutely not.
Do not suppress who you truly are just to fit in with the crowd. Everyone will not understand you or why you do the things that you do, but that is okay. Set your goals and your standards and stick to them while you strive to reach them.
Dear Future Loved Ones…
If you are continuing to be a part of my life, then the assumption is you are bringing positivity, honesty, loyalty, and love. When any of those things become a problem, it may be difficult, please excuse yourself from my life. This is not to say that we will always get along. BUT, if every conversation and meeting that we have together are draining, then there is an indication that it may be time to separate ourselves. Just as I expect these things from you, I promise to
Just as I expect these things from you, I promise to do the same for you. I promise to be a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear, your biggest cheerleader, and your greatest advocate/supporter. My goal is to treat you the way that I want to be treated. The point is to respect you and care for you as much as I care for and respect myself. Sometimes that care and respect look different, but I promise to try.
When we go through a rough patch, we will push through it. LOVE overlooks and overcomes a multitude of problems and issues that may arise. On the other hand, love is sometimes blinding and can cause us to hang on to one another beyond our time to let go. Once we get to a point where it is better for us to remove ourselves from each others’ lives, I promise to point it out, we can talk about it, and let go.
Dear Future Losses…
Before even meeting you, I am letting you know that I do not want to become familiar with you. So! Future losses you may find somewhere better for you to be because I will not settle for you. While no one is ever interested in you, it can be difficult to overcome you. Fortunately for me, if I had not met you before, I would not know how to overcome you later. So I am letting you know, that you do absolutely nothing for me. When you throw a ‘no’ I’ll manage to find a ‘yes’.
I really don’t have much to say to you. Don’t try to make yourself comfortable in my life. There is no room nor are you needed. I understand that sometimes you come along to redirect me on a better path. For that… thanks! Otherwise, if I never see you again, it will be too soon. I promise.
Dear Future Wins…
Unlike the losses, I welcome you with open arms. I realize that I will have to work hard for you. That makes it even sweeter when we come together. Sometimes it is expected for you to be easy in order for you to be rewarding. This is simply not the case. Wins come at a cost. Sometimes they come at the expense of loved ones. It may come at the expense of materialistic things. Maybe, it could come at the expense of happiness. Regardless, nothing worth it will ever come easy. That’s why it feels so good when you are hashtag WINNING!
I just want you to know, however, that I am unwilling to sacrifice some things for you. While I understand that I may have to go without a few things or people to meet you, some things are not worth giving up everything. I am not willing to win at the expense of someone else losing. Being on the end of someone stepping on you to get to their point of “winning” is not fun. Regardless of whether others are willing to do it, I am not. Compromising my self-respect, dignity, integrity, loyalty, and love is non-negotiable. Other than that, I am all yours. Thank you for making life even more rewarding.
What are some of the things that you wish to tell your future self? Let me know in the comments below. 🙂 Also, if you haven’t already, be sure to check out Smiling… and Your Journey to Positivity.