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Dear Future Self…

Dear Future Self… The Concept

Have you ever had a moment where “if you knew then, what you know now”? I have moments like this all the time when I find myself reflecting. I am all about getting to know myself and figuring out ways to better myself, and others around me. So…I am issuing a challenge. What is something that you want to tell your future self? What should your future self-know about you? It all starts with writing, “Dear Future Self…”

I remember in high school, we wrote letters to ourselves as a part of our senior memory books. We wrote ourselves two letters. The first was for one year after graduation, and the second was for five years after graduation. No matter where you’ve come from, what you’ve endured, or where you’re going, this may apply to you. Take this, and make it your own.

Dear Future Me…

These past few years may have been difficult for you. Letting go of things and people who are not adding positivity and light into your life isn’t always easy. Your life experiences mayย have been a challenge, but it, also, is proving to bring the best experiences of your life.

You are wrapping up this chapter of life. You will be taking on new responsibilities. You’ll be forced to stand on your own two feet, make your own decisions, and navigate through life living for you.

I know that you have dreams, goals, and aspirations. However, always remember to keep God first and to remain humble. Humility will get you further in life. You do not have to seek validation from people and their reactions to you, just focus on being the best you that you can be. You cannot let everyone’s opinion drown out your own thoughts and ideas of how to live your life. Consider them, yes… make them the end all be all, absolutely not.

Do not suppress who you truly are just to fit in with the crowd. Everyone will not understand you or why you do the things that you do, but that is okay. Set your goals and your standards and stick to them while you strive to reach them.

Dear Future Loved Ones…

If you are continuing to be a part of my life, then the assumption is you are bringing positivity, honesty, loyalty, and love. When any of those things become a problem, it may be difficult, please excuse yourself from my life. This is not to say that we will always get along. BUT, if every conversation and meeting that we have together are draining, then there is an indication that it may be time to separate ourselves. Just as I expect these things from you, I promise to

Just as I expect these things from you, I promise to do the same for you. I promise to be a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear, your biggest cheerleader, and your greatest advocate/supporter. My goal is to treat you the way that I want to be treated. The point is to respect you and care for you as much as I care for and respect myself. Sometimes that care and respect look different, but I promise to try.

When we go through a rough patch, we will push through it. LOVE overlooks and overcomes a multitude of problems and issues that may arise. On the other hand, love is sometimes blinding and can cause us to hang on to one another beyond our time to let go. Once we get to a point where it is better for us to remove ourselves from each others’ lives, I promise to point it out, we can talk about it, and let go.

Dear Future Losses…

Before even meeting you, I am letting you know that I do not want to become familiar with you. So! Future losses you may find somewhere better for you to be because I will not settle for you. While no one is ever interested in you, it can be difficult to overcome you. Fortunately for me, if I had not met you before, I would not know how to overcome you later. So I am letting you know, that you do absolutely nothing for me. When you throw a ‘no’ I’ll manage to find a ‘yes’.

I really don’t have much to say to you. Don’t try to make yourself comfortable in my life. There is no room nor are you needed. I understand that sometimes you come along to redirect me on a better path. For that… thanks! Otherwise, if I never see you again, it will be too soon. I promise.

via GIPHY

Dear Future Wins…

Unlike the losses, I welcome you with open arms. I realize that I will have to work hard for you. That makes it even sweeter when we come together. Sometimes it is expected for you to be easy in order for you to be rewarding. This is simply not the case. Wins come at a cost. Sometimes they come at the expense of loved ones. It may come at the expense of materialistic things. Maybe, it could come at the expense of happiness. Regardless, nothing worth it will ever come easy. That’s why it feels so good when you are hashtag WINNING!

I just want you to know, however, that I am unwilling to sacrifice some things for you. While I understand that I may have to go without a few things or people to meet you, some things are not worth giving up everything. I am not willing to win at the expense of someone else losing. Being on the end of someone stepping on you to get to their point of “winning” is not fun. Regardless of whether others are willing to do it, I am not. Compromising my self-respect, dignity, integrity, loyalty, and love is non-negotiable. Other than that, I am all yours. Thank you for making life even more rewarding.

Signed,

Present Me

 

What are some of the things that you wish to tell your future self? Let me know in the comments below. ๐Ÿ™‚ Also, if you haven’t already, be sure to check out Smiling… and Your Journey to Positivity.

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32 Comments

  • Reply Jamie

    What a beautiful post of embracing the wins, letting go of the losses, and just reminding yourself how you feel in the now. I love the idea and you shared your thoughts beautifully!

    August 19, 2017 at 12:25 PM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      This sums it up perfectly. Thank you for your kind words. ๐Ÿ™‚

      August 19, 2017 at 2:07 PM
  • Reply Ngumabi

    This is a nice letter
    I have never known how to write a letter to myself
    I will try this because it gave me some ideas!

    August 19, 2017 at 12:51 PM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      I am happy to inspire. That is always one of my goals. I’m a natural reader and writer (those are my 2 ways to escape, relax, and release). Best of luck! ๐Ÿ™‚

      August 19, 2017 at 2:08 PM
  • Reply Jessica

    this is such a wonderful idea! I feel inspired. I love your site. very clean and easy to read.

    August 19, 2017 at 3:11 PM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      Thank you so much! I’m happy to provide any source of inspiration. Thanks for your kind words! ๐Ÿ™‚

      August 19, 2017 at 5:59 PM
  • Reply Chelsea

    Amber, it is absolutely beautiful! I am actually planning on writing a letter to my daughter for her first birthday for her to read in the future as one of my blog posts. I was a little hesitant to do it at first, but now seeing your post, I think it’s a great idea ๐Ÿ˜Š

    August 19, 2017 at 6:06 PM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      That is beautiful and she will appreciate it later on in life. Open letters are always great ideas! Best of luck! ๐Ÿ™‚

      August 19, 2017 at 8:01 PM
  • Reply Shann Eva

    I love this! What a great way to encourage yourself, and also remind yourself of the trials you’ve faced. I’m definitely going to write myself a letter now.

    August 21, 2017 at 8:25 AM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      You should! I struggled, at first, with what to write, but I just let my heart speak. When you do, magic happens.

      August 22, 2017 at 7:55 AM
  • Reply Antonio R.

    And here I thought this would be just another boring “dear future me” post. This is real quality writing and I love the other “Dear future…” you’ve listed. Awesome, please keep it up!

    August 21, 2017 at 10:09 AM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      Thank you so much! ๐Ÿ™‚ I appreciate the kind words.

      August 22, 2017 at 7:55 AM
  • Reply Steven Kreimendahl

    That is such a beautiful idea to write this meaningful post to your future self. It is always so interesting to look back on these types of things and see how our lives and even writing style change over time.

    August 21, 2017 at 6:13 PM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      Most definitely! I was inspired by something that I did in high school for our senior memories. We wrote letters to ourselves in the future, so I decided to kick it up a notch. Thanks for you comment ๐Ÿ™‚

      August 22, 2017 at 7:57 AM
  • Reply blackgirlzen

    Never thought of writing to future self. I think it is a great concept because you have something to look forward to in future.
    blackgirlZen

    August 21, 2017 at 6:26 PM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      Most definitely! I love to write and memorialize how I’m feeling at the moment. That way, when I look back, I can monitor the growth and changes. Thanks for the comment ๐Ÿ™‚

      August 22, 2017 at 7:58 AM
  • Reply Lane & Holly @ With Two Spoons

    Love this eloquent writing to your future self! Humility is always a good lesson!

    August 21, 2017 at 8:41 PM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      I most definitely agree. If life has taught me anything in the past couple of years, it is to be humble. Thanks for your kind words ๐Ÿ™‚

      August 22, 2017 at 7:58 AM
  • Reply Mila @ Hangry Woman

    This is the positivity I needed to read today. I love this blog to future you – sounds like future you has a lot to look forward to!

    August 21, 2017 at 9:01 PM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      I’m glad that it was able to help you. Thank you for the comment ๐Ÿ™‚

      August 22, 2017 at 7:59 AM
  • Reply Marina

    Love this!!! Excellent post and so thoughtfully written !

    August 22, 2017 at 7:26 AM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      Thanks so much! ๐Ÿ™‚

      August 22, 2017 at 7:59 AM
  • Reply Nancy

    Interesting concept! I have no idea what I would write to my future self. Probably something about taking more risks, as I feel like people take less risks the older they get.

    August 22, 2017 at 10:15 AM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      That’s a great start to writing to yourself. If you decide to, just let your heart speak for you.

      August 23, 2017 at 6:28 PM
  • Reply Ayanna @ 21FlavorsofSplendor

    This is such a beautiful post! I can only imagine what I would have written to my future self in high school and even 5 years ago. Today I would write that letter to myself in the tone of ‘Oh all the places you will go’.

    August 22, 2017 at 10:33 AM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      I love that! It’s brilliant! Thank you so much!

      August 23, 2017 at 6:29 PM
  • Reply Dee

    What a great way to empower yourself! In our mind, we think we understand our life and the chaos with in it but writing it down really helps one reflecting it all! Love it!

    August 22, 2017 at 11:30 AM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      It most definitely does. It, also, helps to ease my anxieties.

      August 23, 2017 at 6:30 PM
  • Reply Vicki @ Babies to Bookworms

    I love this, and I definitely think I need to do this for myself as well. Thank you for the inspiration!

    August 22, 2017 at 6:55 PM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      No problem, I’m happy to be of any help/inspiration to others. Much luck with the letter ๐Ÿ™‚

      August 23, 2017 at 6:30 PM
  • Reply Erica @ Coming up Roses

    This is beautiful! I always lovelovelove when people write letters to themselves to see what they have to say. ๐Ÿ™‚

    August 24, 2017 at 12:15 AM
    • Reply Amber Lynn

      Thank you so much! Writing is my therapy, and I definitely needed this release.

      August 26, 2017 at 6:12 PM

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